Don’t hate my jeans
… my genes either.
I’m incredibly supportive of nurturing positive body-image among young women but sometimes I start feeling hated for being thin.
I saw this today (please excuse the profanity):
Ouch. I don’t particularly look like either of these models, but I own and wear size 0 jeans.
I feel like this approach to trying to tell girls that they’re beautiful is unhealthy. To me, it sends the message that it’s ok to belittle someone for their size if they’re thin. I know that our society isn’t doing a good job of helping women (young or old) feel comfortable in their own skin, but stuff like this makes me uneasy. Is my “friend” who is reposting this online thinking that my thinness is “shit” every time that she sees me? Do the people sharing similar things around think that I’m ugly for not wearing a size 14 like Marilyn Monroe did?
I’ve always been small, to the point that my thyroid activity was tested when I was four because I was smaller than all of the other four-year-old kids. Like most students, I gained weight when I started college. My weight gain was caused by several factors including eating dining hall food, quitting my active job teaching swimming lessons when I moved away to school and general inactivity. I graduated from college about 20 pounds heavier than when I graduated from high school. I wasn’t in poor shape, but I wasn’t as healthy as I should be. Then my pancreas stopped working. I dropped about 30 pounds thanks to the ketoacidosis and was admitted to the hospital weighing under 95 pounds. Now that I’m back into a healthy range I’d like to be able to remind myself of why my body is wonderful.
I have enough reasons to not like my body and I don’t know a single woman who doesn’t have at least one complaint about her body. My body and I have struggled with each other enough that we don’t need anyone sending the message that it’s wrong/gross/bad to be the size and shape that I am.
The messages that we should be sending are that anyone can be beautiful at any size and that being healthy and happy are more important than the number on your clothing tag.